What’s Really Preventing Your Weight Loss Dreams?

So, what’s the REAL reason that is preventing you from achieving your weight loss dreams? Look. I’m going to be very bold in this post. I’m going to be honest. If you can’t handle truth and honesty, then this might not be for you. But I’m going to reveal probably the single most important thing when it comes to weight loss. Not a lot of people talk about this. But I’m going to share it with you. And I think you know what it is, but just haven’t really reflected on it. Read on if you’re SERIOUS about your being.

Now, the biggest reason why you have failed is because of the way you perceive yourself. You feel that there is something LACKING. You lack being “fit”. You lack being “good enough”. You lack being “complete”. You get the point. In other words, you don’t accept yourself for who you are IN THIS MOMENT. And because you don’t accept yourself for who you are, and you feel some void or gap within yourself, you try and find ways to fill it in. You therefore feel a “need” and a “desperation” to go out and become “complete” by doing certain things. But you soon find out that no matter what you do, the void or gap is never filled. That’s because there’s isn’t one. You’re creating it for yourself, by your own beliefs about yourself. Your self-perceptions. You are ALREADY PERFECT! You are ALREADY WHOLE. In this moment, you are ALL THAT IS! And anyone who tells you otherwize, is probably stuck in the same trap.

Now this is probably THE MOST IMPORTANT issue in the whole weight loss ordeal. It starts with the SELF and How we look at our SELF. And if we don’t like our self, then we do whatever we can do, to like our self. Hence we try and eat properly, we try and work out or do cardio, we try and cover ourselves up in clothing to make ourselves look better than we think we are. This is what we do is it not? Because we feel a gap within, we try and cover it up by doing all these things. This is the REALITY. This is the basis for why most people do any type weight loss routines.

The problem with all this is that most people try and fill in the gap out of desperation and need. Most people need to do something so that they will feel good. But the trap is that they become dependent on external things such as their body or routine to feel happiness. If they lose their results, they will again “suffer”. They will again be unhappy and will again try and look to fill in the gap by doing something else. This is not just any trap. This is an endless, and eternal trap. This is why people are never happy with themselves no matter what they achieve. The GAP that you feel inside, is a false sense of SELF. Like I said earlier, you are already WHOLE AND COMPLETE. The gap is simply an illusion or false perception you hold about yourself.

So what do we do then if we feel this gap? We have to start with GRATITUTE and ACCEPTANCE in the NOW. We have to learn to appreciate who we are, and acknowledge that we are already complete beings. This may sound very strange to some. This is because they have been CONDITIONED. Conditioned by media, magazines, their religion, their parents, their friends, their wife or girlfriend, and so on. We have been falsely conditioned ever since we were children to believe that we were incomplete, or unwhole. We have been falsely conditioned to think that we are unworthy in the eyes of others unless they approve of us. The media makes us feel insignificant by showing us images of “perfect people”. They have created a FALSE REALITY for us that makes us feel less than we really are. This is simply NON-SENSE. We have become VICTIMS to this false reality and we are imprisoned within our own minds. And because of that imprisonment, we become trapped within a vicious cycle of finding endless things that will help fill in this false void of ours. We buy countless products out of desperation, we go on every type of diet imaginable, we try every type of exercise in the gym, we buy every type of clothing that will make us look slimmer or fitter. All this because we have a false IMAGE of ourself. This is WHY most people FAIL. Not only in losing weight, but even AFTER they have lost weight. Even those “PERFECT PEOPLE” in those magazines have this problem. They still don’t feel GOOD ENOUGH!

So if we just reflect a bit. Let’s just reflect NOW and see what’s REALLY going on. Ask yourself the question, “WHY do I want to lose weight?” Ask yourself, “Why do I feel the way that I do?” Ask yourself, “What will I get out of this?” The more we question our actions, the more WE will be in control. We don’t want to give ANYONE OR ANYTHING our power anymore! We HOLD that power in us. We are the creators of our reality. We are PERFECT BEINGS that are blessed with the ability to manifest what we desire. But it can’t come out of a sense of desperation or need. Because you will ALWAYS fail if you hold this within yourself. You have to start with the “END IN MIND”, as Stephen Covey mentions in his books. We have to start with, how we see ourselves. First start with appreciation and gratitude of your current self. See what things in your life you really APPRECIATE. Then ask yourself those questions above. Ask the WHY’S. Not the HOWS. We’ve been so conditioned to ask HOW we will do something. But we haven’t been conditioned to ask WHY we do something. So Start with the WHY. It is more important than the HOW. The HOW can be asked later.

When your perceptions of yourself change, and you see yourself as ALREADY perfect and don’t need to PROVE yourself to others or even yourself, then you do things out of LOVE and COMPASSION. Instead of saying things like, “I want to lose weight because I feel fat and people always criticize me”, you say things like, “I LOVE my body, and when I take care of my BODY, I feel all the cells in my body dance in harmony, and I feel overwhelmed with the joy it bring in my being. Also, when I eat healthy, my mind is clearer and I can go about my day by being more efficient and being more energized.” You see the SHIFT here? One is out of LACK, and the other is out of LOVE. Your perceptions about yourself, and how you see yourself NOW, is what matters most. If you want to lose weight, have a purpose for doing so, and see yourself as already have accomplished it. Feel the feelings of Joy NOW with the new body. And take that feeling with you wherever you go. When you see yourself ALREADY COMPLETE, your body will MANIFEST that reality. If there is a resistance to this, then you have to work with the resistance within yourself, and see why it is there. See why these thoughts and images and voices of resistance are coming up and face them. Interact with them. Ask these thoughts why they are coming up and why there is resistance and fear. This way you will get to the root of your problems. It’s not just a matter of WISHFUL THINKING, or POSITIVE THINKING. That’s the OLD paradigm. The NEW paradigm is FACING those negative self limiting thoughts and embracing them. It’s not about IGNORING them and replacing them simply with positive thoughts as most new age teachers teach. It’s about dealing with those parts of yourself which are self-limiting and prevent you from seeing your TRUE nature, that is ALREADY perfect in this moment. You will not only reach your goals sooner, you will have a sense of purpose in your life, and you won’t be controlled by external things in your life. You will EMPOWER yourself. You are in control…